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Well the day before I had my mind set that i would go out and do this so i went to the mall, and since its a few days before christmas the place was packed and the amount of people just made me freeze up. So after awhile of just walking around aimlessly i left and went to s supermarket and i just froze up again and didn't try anything for the rest of the day. I dunno what it was cause I have friends and i can talk to their friends easly thats how i have gotten most of my girlfriends, but for some reason i just froze up.'

Anyways i woke up today and reenergized myself to go out and try again, of course i was planning on talking to everyone that walked by me and everyone that i could. when i got their it was a different story i froze up. Then i was walking through sweet bay and i just was like fuck it i gotta do this so i said hi to some women. Then they told me to get the fuck away from them. Nah just kidding they were nice and then i just started hi to alot of people. so far i have said hi to like 8 or 9 people that i didn't know before and by the end of this week i want to have done that to 100 people.

I am defiantly not over my AA but im starting to realize that all the excuses i make up for myself to not talk to people are just for me to get short term satisfaction and not break out of my shell. This was a good idea and im gonna do all of the challenges.

remember you will not completely eliminate the AA, just reduce its impact on you thoughts. good going. just have the frame of mind, of having fun and enjoying yourself

Aye, AA and excuses is the devil talking

P_Cock wrote:Aye, AA and excuses is the devil talking

damn i guess the devil is real.


i decided to ditch the idea of saying hi to everyone i see and just try to deliver lines to the people i thought were hot. damn there is just as much anxiety as saying hi, because it just seems scripted and its not me, then i get anxious thinking that they will know it. But if i just think of something right there and say it out loud to a group i can do it no problem and with literally no anxiety.

I have noticed though that when i see a girl i just soak in her hotness and don't even think of talking to her until after the opportunity has passed.

And the other day i went out to some country club with some friends and of course i was thinking about game the whole time and psyched my self out and one of the people i was with, who is pretty good with women just walked up to me and told me to stop caring,i hadn't even told him what was going on. I thought about it for awhile then i was like fuck it and did what he said and it was the most fun i have had at a bar, ever. Even after that though i still get that uneasy feeling when i try to bring up conversation starters that i have thought of before hand. Even in conversations with people that i have known for awhile. I know i just gotta push through that, but damn i get a lot of anxiety. afterward when i do bring it up people don't even think twice about it.

canibus1990 wrote:remember you will not completely eliminate the AA, just reduce its impact on you thoughts. good going. just have the frame of mind, of having fun and enjoying yourself

Ya your defiantly right, cause when i am having fun people i talk to switch to having fun as well.

i would also advise not to worry about what others thinks

canibus1990 wrote:i would also advise not to worry about what others thinks

even my boss?

canibus1990 wrote:i would also advise not to worry about what others thinks

If only there was a visible switch located somewhere between the ear and forehead to turn that worry off. I'd have switched mine off a long time ago!

All this brainwashing media garbage we subconsciously and consciously take in daily makes it insanely difficult to truly not care! We're all programmed by society to be always worried about our outward appearance and how others are perceiving us and our actions. So we get stuck in our heads making up all these assumptions about any given scenario passing it off as truths as to what is going on in everyone elses mind about us while forgetting the most important thing! ------------> what others think is irrelevant. It only becomes relevant when you make it relevant. Now this notion sounds simple, but really think about it. "It only becomes relevant when YOU make it relevant. This means all the power is in your court - it's sticks and stones baby - words only ever hurt when you grant them the power to hurt.

If only society preached thinking for our selves and being our own person, not give us a list of what's acceptable and make us feel like we have to not only fit into that list, but follow it diligently. if only society preached the oneness we all have inside, how we're all related to each other and everything around us. We're not really different at all in the end when it truly comes down to it! Instead society tells us how unique each of us is, which forces us all to build these huge ivory towers to stow away in and protect with our lives.

Aahhh, society sickens me. And it's the root of why you feel anxiety in the first place. It's the root of why saying "hi" to a stranger feels awkward to most.

There is a switch that you can turn off, it's just not out in the open, rather hidden beneath each of our individual stored notions of how we are "supposed to" behave. Once you get around all this silly "supposed to" none sense it gets a whole lot easier to face rejection and the whole lot of silly feelings associated with approaching strangers. Only time and the right mindset/training can get you to that place, however.

I don't believe there really exists such a thing as 'society'. Anyone other than yourself is 'society'.

Well, it's one thing to know that at an intellectual level, quite another to internalize it as a core belief so it won't dictate one's behavior.

Stop saying my name jack, I know I'm attractive, gosh.

jackcoxwell wrote:

canibus1990 wrote:i would also advise not to worry about what others thinks

If only there was a visible switch located somewhere between the ear and forehead to turn that worry off. I'd have switched mine off a long time ago!

All this brainwashing media garbage we subconsciously and consciously take in daily makes it insanely difficult to truly not care! We're all programmed by society to be always worried about our outward appearance and how others are perceiving us and our actions. So we get stuck in our heads making up all these assumptions about any given scenario passing it off as truths as to what is going on in everyone elses mind about us while forgetting the most important thing! ------------> what others think is irrelevant. It only becomes relevant when you make it relevant. Now this notion sounds simple, but really think about it. "It only becomes relevant when YOU make it relevant. This means all the power is in your court - it's sticks and stones baby - words only ever hurt when you grant them the power to hurt.

If only society preached thinking for our selves and being our own person, not give us a list of what's acceptable and make us feel like we have to not only fit into that list, but follow it diligently. if only society preached the oneness we all have inside, how we're all related to each other and everything around us. We're not really different at all in the end when it truly comes down to it! Instead society tells us how unique each of us is, which forces us all to build these huge ivory towers to stow away in and protect with our lives.

Aahhh, society sickens me. And it's the root of why you feel anxiety in the first place. It's the root of why saying "hi" to a stranger feels awkward to most.

There is a switch that you can turn off, it's just not out in the open, rather hidden beneath each of our individual stored notions of how we are "supposed to" behave. Once you get around all this silly "supposed to" none sense it gets a whole lot easier to face rejection and the whole lot of silly feelings associated with approaching strangers. Only time and the right mindset/training can get you to that place, however.

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