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This is a big topic, probably one of the biggest things we all have to internally deal with. Getting rejected, just like everything else though, has no real meaning...just the meaning we give it.

Here's 3 examples I want to share...

Sylvester Stallone's script for Rocky was rejected over 1000 times untill finally someone said yes.

J.K Rowlings first book Harry Potter was turned down and laughed at by every major publishing house in Great Britian, then one little agency took a chance and the rest is history.

The band Linkin Park was turned down by every major record label in the industry, it wasn't untill a small indipendent gave them a chance that they broke through.

What does this mean to us? It means this... every one of those people and companies that turned down Stallone, Rowlings and Linkin Park is now secretly kicking their own fucking asses!! In fact, it's a joke that now most of them have denied having ever been in contact with them. "Sly never came in with his script". "Actually no, Mrs Rowling must have been mistaken, we've never proof read Harry Potter". Which was laughed at by the said examples and was told to be "Bullshit, they told me sorry, me and my product weren't good enough".

So to deal with rejection all we have to do is internally re-frame what it means. For me personally, when I get rejected my thougth process is "You dumb girl, you don't know what you could have had...if you only knew you would kick yourself in the ass". You have to have the beleif that you being rejected is THEIR fault because they're too fucking stupid to see how great you are...and if they knew they'd be pissed at how stupid they were in failing to realize it. When you get rejected, just look at the girl and laugh to yourself because she dosn't realize what she could have had because YOU are the fucking man!

The easiest way to do it is to focus on your really posotive qualities. If you're really funny and witty you can just think to yourself "Most guys are boring as shit and this silly girl turned down someone who is more fun then 99% of men out there, her loss". If you're a boxer "She just rejected a me, a guy who can kick the shit out of most men walking the street..dumb girl."

You get the picture.

I like this post, like you said the key to handling rejecting is re-framing it in ur mind.

I agree with reframing the rejection, and I agree with your basic theory, but I would add another facet to the rejection jewel. The other aspect that can cause rejection - and it should be what motivates us to get better - is how something is presented. If I offer you a Porche, but it's been in a major accident - crumpled front end, destroyed paint, broken windows and clearly in need of a lot of work, You're probably less than interested - no matter how great it might be. However, if I offer the same car and it's in pristine condition, you're thinking I'm crazy giving it away and will work to make sure I don't change my mind.

I view rejection as a fuck up on my part in the way I presented myself. NOT that something is wrong with me - just my presentation - There's a HUGE difference, and it makes rejection ok in my mind. Presentation can be worked on and improved, and that's the motivator to get better at this. Game is nothing short of strategic, analyzed presentation with a goal in mind. So while yeah, I agree, the girl is missing out on the best thing she could ever dream of obtaining, It also means I did a bad job somewhere in showing her what she's missing, and that's my new challenge, to analyze where I goofed up and make sure I don't do it in the future.

That's a fantastic beleif system to have bro...I've never thought of it like that. Thanks for sharing!