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A lot of typical ladies men I know and the general vibe I get off the PUA community is that you most put a women's amount of effort into your appearance. For example, follow every trend, highlight and straighten your hair, moisurise your arse and just generally look like a poof.

I've started updatin me wardrobe and style but some of the stuff just int me.

Everyone puts an emphasis on clean shaven. Why? I like the rugged look, nice bit of bristle gives me a nice rugged jawline and is manly as fuck. And hair, why style it like a bird's, mine's nice and short and choppy and spikey and looks scruffy and cool as fuck. If it looks good, does it matter if there's not a clear amount of effort behind it? I don't understand why that's so important.

And wearin skinny jeans and cardigans and jewellery and shit. I mean, I'm not suggestin we go all caveman but don't women want us to be somewhat masculine in our appearance? Maybe it's a British thing but soap and flossin and shavin etc, all just seems gay as hell. Givin a fuck about whether or not your side partins in the right place an that, gime a fuckin break, shave yer heid and get a tattoo for fuck's sake.

Your input?

lol all those things u menthioned aren't really important, i think you may have accidently missed the point.

Its not that you must spend hours making yourself look good, or follow the latest trends, or where skinny jeans, or a hairstyle that isn't you. It's that you should have a style/ look that compliments you, and your personality, and, makes you feel good about yourself...

ultimately as jack, and some other PUA's have shown, you could be dressed like a hobo, thats not what attracts women... but, if being dressed well bolsters your confidence, well... that is what attracts women, your confidence, and self worth, which dressing nicely passively shows, and being dressed in a way that makes you confident, and happy helps to promote.

ultimately, you don't need to do stylish, or trendy, just do you, but with a caveat, Be the BEST you, and then, you can be the confident you, the one that women have been dying to meet.

Hrm, some of the advice you get on sites is very big on certain things you should do and shoudn't do, wear and shouldn't wear, I'm with you that that's all bollocks, you should dress ow you feel comfortable and, to an extent, with emphasis on the style you think will attract the type of girl you'd like to pull.

Bein dressed as a hobo and managin to pull sounds like a skill and a half. Mind you, I used to dress full on hardcore punk (big green mohawk, studded jacket, boots, the lot) and get girls who were like in no way into that, so I suppose it's not that unrealistic a prospect.

It's an interestin question though, you think puttin in a far too much effort and care (to a feminine extent) actually appeals to many or most women?

to answer your question... I pose a question, was prince seen as a sexual icon, or a homo, singer??

I think that taking allot of care highlights allot of great qualities to women... attention to detail, self awareness, self worth... etc

but all kinds of styles demonstrate those things, even with your example of hardcore punk, a big green mohawk, takes some care to maintain, and the rest of your clothes, while perhaps not that appealing to the mainstream, show both self confidence, since you clearly don't give a fuck what others are thinking while you wear it. and a sense of personal strength, a fortitude of character, your a leader, even if only of one, with your own unique, or at least uncommon style, and sense of fashion.

I like to go out in a Pink tye-die polo shirt I have, its really amazing looking, bright, pink, tight fitting, when i go out in it, everyones paying attention to me, and you know, getting her attention is like half the battle...

but again, like I said in my last post, the most important thing, is that your clothes compliment you, they add value, and confidence, because as the old saying goes, the clothes don't make the man, the man makes the clothes. Go out there and make some clothes lady bait

To answer your question about Prince Shammy, It doesn't matter how he was perceived - he got laid more than any of us lol!

I agree with shammy about clothing. The only point to the big fuzzy hat etc. is to stand out. I think the point here is find a style that you're comfortable with, then add one or two things that make you stand out and might draw a conversation with a woman. The idea of "shave and bathe" (screw moisturizing your ass!) is to display to a woman that you take care of yourself and don't need her to do it for you.

If you can't care for yourself to some degree, then how can you care for her?

That said, if scruff or a caveman look is you, go for it - but please do bathe, no woman wants to be close to a funky man!

I bathe every day, not with soap mind, but I bathe nonetheless. This is more frequent than most women I've dated, often I found meself sayin to them 'yer honkin, ave a shower' rather than the other way round.

Hygiene aside, I'd agree everyone as a sort of style that suits their personality. I can't imagine me dressed in cardigans with straightened hair, it would not fit me abrasive attitude, there's a certain amount of coarseness that me look as to reflect. I definitely pull it off, so it's aight.