MyPUAJourney Forum

Hi All,

Im Newcastle, 27 single and recently made redundant due to the beautiful credit crunch, i say beautiful for two reasons, 1 i got a large redundancy payment (severance packet for you lot overseas) and 2 as it gave me the push i needed to move my life onto something challenging and new, i have enrolled into University to study Broadcast Journalism in the hope of becoming a music/sports presenter....its good to have goals!!

So why am i on this great little website? well like most of you i read "The Game" and got hooked on the concept of a better me and being better with women, i literally got the book on Fri 29th May 2009 and finished it yesterday Sunday 31st May, i couldnt put it down! So when i say im a newbie i really really am!

I have read thru most of the posts on this site to guage more of an understanding into the lifestyle and what changes i can make and have subsequently gone on to order the following books which i hope will help me further:-


BODY LANGUAGE by ALLAN PEASE

HOW TO WIN FRIENDS & INFLUENCE PEOPLE.DALE CARNEGIE

THE MIND GYM : WAKE YOUR MIND UP BOOK

THE RULES OF THE GAME BY NEIL STRAUSS

ALLAN PEASE- TALK LANGUAGE.'Talk For Profit & Pleasure'

FEEL THE FEAR AND DO IT ANYWAY - Susan Jeffers

I will devour these books hopefully in the same quick time it took me to do Style's first book!

A little bit about my background with women and an honest assessment of myself...

Im 5ft 11 and bout 2stone overweight for my height (thats near enough 30lbs) i have great blue eyes and a cheeky smile, i'm growing my hair after years of shaving it off and its currently just passing my ears so its in the "indie rock" star stage and its blonde and i love it, might keep it this length!

In school i got NO girls! didnt lose my virginity till 18yrs old which to some may seem young but in the UK unfortunatley we have it drilled into us from "friends" and peers that you should be getting your cherry popped from 13 onwards! At school i was a lot heavier then i am now, infact i had my own private joke with myself that i always weighed more then my age! (that only works in stones by the way, this metric system will never catch on in the states) so i never had any social status with girls, i did however have 1 ace up my sleeve and still do to this day, im genuinely a very funny person, fuck knows where i get it from as my mother and father are not funny, my elder brother is quite funny so maybe i take it from him, anyway if there was any public speaking to be done at school or any situation where i could get my voice out and heard by the masses i was more then game, this is probably what led me to "getting the girl" when i was 18!

That girl i got i stayed with for 4yrs, i case of oneitis you guys would call it! it was fun, i was getting regular sex and the experience of having somebody who liked you for who you are was great! Then she ended things and like all men i went into that crazy state of neigh on depression over it, i reacted in a different way to most people however, i was in a steady job working in an office surrounded by hot girls, again everybody knew about my sense of humour but i hadnt tried to pick anybody up due to me having a girlfriend....that now had changed and so did i, i made a decision to change my lifestyle and if i wanted to get the girl i needed to get fit!!

I went on a weird fitness and diet regime (involving copious amnounts of cocaine) which made me lose over 5 stone and gave me more confidence then i have ever had before, the results for me were brilliant!

Since then till this year i have worked in that same job (was 8years in total) and i had every woman that i wanted, im not bragging on that side of things it actually became so bad that when a new intake of employees came in they were told to avoid me as i would only try and sleep with them, i still dont know if that was a good reputation to have!!

So i went thru a lot of women but never got anything serious with any of them, i have now learnt that the things i was doing to get the girl are the stuff that Style and Mystery and the other guru's have been doing all these years but i had no training or coaching on it, it just happened naturally for me, "negs" as you call them were/are my fave things in the world, i had some weird thing about girls hands for "negging" which always ended up with me getting an "IOI" as you call it due to me ending up by having the girls hands in mine within a few mins of meeting her.

So as you can see im ok with women, i enjoy their company, my problem is when it comes after i have f-closed, i get clingy, i dont know why i do it, hopefully the books im getting will help me over it, i want to stop doing it, i want to make my "game" so when i have f-closed i dont constantly think about her for the rest of the week/month etc etc i think this is more do to with my inner game however but would love your opinions and thoughts on the matter and maybe some suggestions as to what i can do to change that part of my brain!

Wow that was a very long post, if you did that the time, thanks for reading it!!

I dont have any wingmen up in the North East of England so i'm having to do this all by myself, if there is anybody in the North East who wants to run some sarges then let me know and we can work something out.

Regards,

Newcastle

Welcome Newcastle and thanks for the in depth background. Probably the most thorough here!

I'd strongly suggets grabbing a copy of "the venusian arts handbook" It's mystery's book, but hard to locate a copy to purchase. google will turn up some results though. It was my introduction to all of this, and was probably one of the most empowering reads I've ever had. It explained a lot to me on a psychologial level that helped me understand not only why the techniques Mystery espouses work, but also why what I was doing in the past was so wrong.

Also, depending on how much you want to shell out, Love Systems has an audio series for purchase at:

http://www.lovesystems.com/audio

I particularly found the recording on identity engaging as a newcomer to pu artistry. However, I have listened to about 12 of those recordings, and most have some valuable information in them.

Also, Nick Spark's blog is money:

http://sparksofattraction.com/

(and free!) as are the links to thesocialman.com especially of interest to me was:

http://www.thesocialman.com/sparks-rapi ... ion-method

It's a really good visual/explanatory rundown of body language tonality etc. that's so important to all of this.

I'll post more, but there is a ton on this blog, and it looks like you've already found a bunch!

Best of luck!

Thanks for the great info qixsilver!

Newcastle