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I just thought of this, it might be an old idea. but if the girl is aggressive tell her;
"you have a 3 minutes timeout, you will not get attention for the next 3 minutes"

all in the spirit of treating her like a little sister (or something).

this is probably an old idea, and if it is, how/when should it be done?

i'm guessing that if she's in a set. she'll talk to the other girls isntead of working for your attention.
Then it can go both ways offcourse.
Maybe if u just say it and hold it for 20-30seconds it will work bout if you're haning in on those 3mins. I think she'll get bored and just drag her friends away from you aswell.
but worth a try

but how about a way of teasing, and say 3 min but only do 1 min or something.

and EDIT; maybe "you have a 3 minutes timeout, you will not get MY attention for the next 3 minutes"

Faint wrote:

ROFL !

but how about a way of teasing, and say 3 min but only do 1 min or something.

Yeah after like 30 seconds just say "Okay I'm bored" and continue.

But LOL I actually did something like that...like seriously. I was talking on facebook with someone and she negs me a bit then im like "thats it you have 2 posts left". Now looking back imlike "Wtf was I thinking?" I could have gone about it in a different way.

But when I think about it it's not a very good idea to put a girl youre trying to game in literal time out. Then you are not talking to her and gaming her and losing that bond, treating her like a little kid, and inviting her to find something else to do. Yea yea it shows "you have better things to do blablabla" but in the end more is lost than gained. I would say something like "ha maybe I should put you in timeout like in the old days" and that brings back childhood memories, which is always nice but still dont ACTUALLY put them in "timeout," you're not their mom

i've attempted to sum up why i feel this is not a good idea but each time i tried i ended up typing way too much and got over elaborated with more detail then necessary by going into examples and psychology.

i'll just sum things up by saying i personally don't think this is a good one at all. it's a bad challenge toward her and her position/value within the set.

in isolation, this would make no sense at all. why would you want a girl you want to act less aggressive? that's the perfect time to escalate. do this in a set and you're gonna loose ground. it's not very humorous nor playful, just arrogant and challenging (in an unwanted way).

i could go on, but i'll leave it at that.

I have never used it.

I think this idea comes from mystery. I think he uses it as a neg, to increase social status, and bring her value down.

I can see it being used, especially for tests, but i think there are better ways to deal with tests.

Why do you want to use it in the first place?

The aim of game, is to escalate, this time out will only stop this and take longer to escalate.

Escalation such as

physical - from no contact to sex;

Verbal - from no talk to deep emoitonal sharing things you never talked about

Logistical - from being together with lots of people to being alone where sex can happen

Hoops- from her doing nothing for you to her doing anything for you

shit going on too much.

Nope. Don't use it. Time out works from parent to child because the child has to respect the parent. She owes you nothing, and would likely just find another way to occupy her time with her friends, another guy etc. all of which make you look bad - suddenly, you're the one in time out, just standing there alone in her group. It will backfire every time, I guarantee it.

If you're really wanting a punishment routine to make her feel like a kid, then threaten to spank her, at least that has sexual overtones to it and likely escalates you toward your goal. If she calls your bluff on it, then do it. Playfully slap her on the ass - she asked for it.

The item Canibus is referring to (I think) is called a freeze out, and it's meant to be used to point out to a girl who is already invested in you (like on a day 2 or 3 when it's just the 2 of you or when trying to F-close) that her behavior won't be accepted. The idea is when you're turned down to take 2 steps back - give her what she's asking for (Hey, I don't want to make out becomes (by actions - never verbalized!) ok then, I don't even want to cuddle, accomplished by getting up to make popcorn or something, and returning to sit next to her in "un-cuddle-dom" until she re-initiates.) but take it past her comfort level. Simplified she's basking in the warm glow of your attention, and you then take that attention away from her when she displeases you and let her realize that she wants it back.

In the initial pickup, Mystery uses a similar tactic with body language by "rolling off" when a girl does something you don't like. Again, never verbal - verbalizing dissatisfaction can make you appear whiney.

The Roll off is, in essence, when you're locked in with a woman via body language (Hips squared to her, eye contact established, smiling etc.) and she does something or says something that you dislike, you physically take a step away from her, turn your hips away, break eye contact, and turn your shoulder briefly to her as if you're going to leave. maybe taking it a step further with an awkward pause to increase the social pressure on her to re-engage. "rolling off" for a second or two before returning to your preferred lock in posture. it's a subtle way to let her know "Hey, I can leave at any time." via body language. If she's attracted, then this will have a similar effect to what's described above.

There are lots of ways to "punish" insulting comments, or bad behaviors while in set without losing the repoire you've established, or possibly losing the set.

and now, I too understand the "Lengthy post" feeling that Rhetoric mentioned!

qix nailed a lot of the points i was going after. a lot of good points made by him.

the sad thing is that i actually typed out two different long posts but decided not to post them because despite how long they were, i could have said more.


either way the bottom line is never use it, ever. not a good idea. there are FAR better ways of handling the situation.