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1. i always make an effort to remember the girls names. i have difficulty remembering names. How does showing an effort remembering names reflect back on me?

2. I never go for the number-close. I really do not know what to do with it. and what do you do when you have real life constraint on you for the next say 2 weeks? lets say you get the number, but have no time to meet her within the next two weeks.

3. I don't like lines and routines, this gets me stuck sometimes, when I have no info. do you have a routine that works as a conversationrebooter when you are sitting next to the girl? that don't feel like a routine? I only need something funny and short.

4. I have heard both things, showing engagement about a topic is good. But often i overshoot it, because i am actually that interested. the stories become to long, and detailed, etc. how long should a story last? (obv this depends on the situation, but a general idea).

5. I often say stupid things just because i don't give a dam, this i feel sometimes screws things up. but on the other hand my state of mind gives me is the way better than the opposite (AFC). but any tips on getting to a sensible state of mind in the "middle"?

6. any ideas on how making the girl take you home, rather than you bringing her home? that is always my goal, but it is more difficult. bc then the girl have to be even more interested.

i think that was all, ill post more small q if i remember them

The problem is you give a damn, that's why you're making this post. I know.. it's ironic. But it'll all go much easier if you stop caring. ANd to do that you need to have succes. And to have succes you have to stop caring. This is the viscous circle that people are in.

i have enough success to not care. or at least to not care about a single instance

1. this is a good thing. it shows you calm and collected enough to actually remember the name. people all over love the sound of their own name. this is important. this is a thing that a lot of naturals will do a lot of the time. they will use her name each time they address her. it helps to build comfort in a sense too. plus when you go for the number, it shows a lot when you remember her name and don't have to ask for it again. if she doesn't remember yours, no big deal, most people are terrible at this. this also gives you a chance to neg her about it. personally i suck at remembering names. i usually forget literally 5-6 seconds after being told, no lie.

2. you can still call them to just check up on them. just don't sound needy. this is actually important if you're trying to build a social circle or LTMR. you have to keep them remembering you even if you can't see them. you can also text on occasion. things like facebook also work well in situations like this.

3. when the conversation dies, i'll jump into nearly anything to get it going again. it doesn't have to be related to the previous stuff. you don't have to memorize routines, but memorize fun questions. however, if you're building enough interest early on and getting her to invest early on, then when the conversation dies, stay relaxed and force her to invest even more by reestablishing the conversation. this is actually a means of breaking rapport which leads to her investing more which in turn leads to more attraction.

4. as they say, "keep it simple stupid." (no offense) get in there and get out when i comes to stories. you want to add the humor, the DHV spikes, etc, and then stop. nervous people tend to talk too much. even if you're not nervous it may appear that way. plus no one likes hearing someone talk on and on forever. especially if it's a story no one cares about.

5. no too sure what you're actually asking. i think you'd be greatly surprised about some of the things i talk about. i say them because that's me and my sense of humor. if the girl doesn't like it, then there's a huge chance we wouldn't get along further down the road so why would i bother wasting my time on her. there's no sense in investing my efforts only to find out two weeks later that she isn't feeling my true self and sense of humor. that's time wasted. i say random stuff all the time because i like to and it weeds out the girls that fit my personality type. i can usually tell if a girl will feel my personality by the way the she looks/dresses/presents herself. i've actually never had a problem with any of the crazy shit i say. the other night i was talking about how i got AIDs twice from walking down the street barefooted but i took a vitamin and got rid of it. i also mentioned how i sold my kids on eBay but didn't get very much money because they were too old and that the younger they are the more they're worth. the girls knew i was kidding and it fit into the conversation (very loosely however) so i wasn't just saying these things with out tying them into the conversation at hand.

6. get her highly invested. however, by having her drive you around, you're giving her all the power. best bet is to tell her to drive to your place, invite her in for about 3 minutes. then you drive wherever you'll are going. when you return back to your place it's now easier to get her to come inside. you've presented it as non-threatening the first time around. plus now she can drive herself home. you were the one who drove you home.

6; i did not ask how to get a girl home with you, but to get a girl to bring you to her place, more in one-nigth stand situations

Eh isn't that the same? You ussualy want to go home with her or to her and then you discuss or choose which option is easier (it's usually better to go to the closest one so she doesn't loose her drunkness or gets tired ).

If you go home together it doesn't matter which place and you can choose eitehr way... in my experience I don't see how she would want to go with you but not to her place? I mean.. iesn't that "safer" for her? So I don't see the problem ?

hope wrote:6; i did not ask how to get a girl home with you, but to get a girl to bring you to her place, more in one-nigth stand situations

i don't like your attitude you little jackass. learn to write without ambiguity and there wouldn't be any confusion. you should also learn to show some appreciation.

ah, i did not mean to seem like a jackass, it is just that i live on 8 square meters that is about 80 square feet.

and english is a second language to me, so that second post I thougth of more as clearifying my question. really no harm intended. I would not come here asking if I did not appreachiate the answers. and all of the 5 first did answer my questions, but since I understood there had been a comunications error on the 6th question, I tried to state my question absolutely clear.

I am sad that i come off as if I am not apprecating the answers i am getting, because i do.

the problem about my own place i is that it is closer to my regular bars than most girls i meet, and it is really small, so i have to keep my chlotes in boxes and bags, witch actually have been a dealbreaker before for me.

haha. it's cool man. no hard feelings, just a bit of mis-communication on both our parts lol.

as far as answering your question for #6 goes, well it's bit tricky. i'll come back to it tomorrow. i must get going right this minute unfortunately. i also need time to think of something that's practical.

Here is my answer on some of your questions. Although the others have made good points

1. Names. They are important. How does it feel when your friends or someone you know forgets your name? it feels that they think you are not important. Dale carnegie (chekc his book out) said that a persons name is like music to their ears. Just remember, say it often, ask them to spell it. It will help.

2. if you get a number, you call it. well if you cant meet her, the best thing to do would be to call her and talk on the phone that way, build comfort with her. Do this often, so she dont forget you.

3. you could use what you have been talking about with her. IF she mentioned that she likes travelling, but you never talked about it. You can back to that. Read some interesting stories from the news, and talk about that, not deaths, war and politcs and relligion though. chekc out www.fark.com, lots of cool stories to talk about. you could do a cold read on her - find out about them on net, e.g. strawberry fields, cube, or just general turning questions into statements e.g. whats you job? -> i bet you are a nures.

4. it depends on where you are in the interaction. I dont subscribe to telling indepth stories at the beginning of interaction, i my aim is to get her talking more, not listening more. when the conversation becomes more even, then i will talk about things in depth. When telling stories, dont talk about numbers and facts, talk about feelings and emoitions and details like smell, sight, actions, sounds.

5. I dont really get this. what i say, is just get into the state of having fun, being social and curious about her.

6. this is hard. it is best to take her to your place. But am in the same boat as you. generally i dont go for one night stands, cuase it is hard to do with day game. the best thing to do is to do lots of instant date and get closer to her place. She has to be very comfortable with you, trust you a lot. you could also try talk about something specific that she might have at her place (photos of a trip) and be interested in that, so you have an excuse to go there. Personally, i just do the dates thing, i would do a date maybe 2nd or 3rd date at her place, cook a meal together. also if i find out the area where she lives, i would research any good things to do around that area, that way i set up the date there, and can easliy tranistion to going to her place to drop her off,as we are already in the area.

Mr wrote:Eh isn't that the same? You ussualy want to go home with her or to her and then you discuss or choose which option is easier (it's usually better to go to the closest one so she doesn't loose her drunkness or gets tired ).

Lmao! Mr is funny as hell! Ive visited something like 6 posts and and ive seen him talking about getting or making out with girls who are drunk. lol. Makes you seem like a some kind of drunk rapist. lol. All in good humor though.

They're not the highest quality, but they're the easy pickens.

I always view myself as a lion. When I'm sober I just see girls and look at all the pretty ones, but when I've had a drink I feel as if I get some kind of advanced view, which allows me to see the easy pickens... a lion will always go for the easy pray, the young ones or the disabled. NOw I don't go for disabled girls but I do go for young ones lol (all legal).

Anyway a friend of mine described it as this: You ussualy connect with people that are at the same level as you (in drunkness) if you're sober you ussualy want to connect with sober people, when you're drunk you want to connect with other drunk people (they will be the only ones who think you're funny). So when you get drunk yourself it's easier to spot which girls are also drunk and they're the ones that are easy to take home,.. since they're drunk.

DOesn't really sound like a masterplan, but often it works. I want to get rid of this whole scheme though, because I want some more quality in stead of quantity I want to go for the cute girls now.

Rhetoric wrote:

hope wrote:6; i did not ask how to get a girl home with you, but to get a girl to bring you to her place, more in one-nigth stand situations

i don't like your attitude you little jackass. learn to write without ambiguity and there wouldn't be any confusion. you should also learn to show some appreciation.

hahahah i love you

haha, thanks.

i forgot about this thread. i never came back like a said i would to answer #6. the funny thing is that i actually have an answer that i typed up in another thread. i'll copy and paste the link right quick.

http://mypuajourney.freeforums.org/livi ... -t605.html