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Hey guys, a lot of you know that about a month and a half ago I was having issues with flaking. Then I finally started getting some day 2's at the end of September.

In the beginning of October, I am not sure what happened, but I just started getting insanely good. I literally had to stop sarging because I was picking up too many girls. One time I even picked a girl up right before I was going to go on a date with another one. I was texting/calling/setting up meetings with about 4-5 girls when I decided to stop sarging because I couldn't handle anymore.

To be honest I was starting to have almost-mini anxiety attacks where I was having difficulty breathing due to the stress. I had never experienced having this many girls interested in me at once. I couldn't remember which conversations I had with each girl and started to get them mixed up.

What I ended up doing is keeping the best one and letting the others fade away, and this dramatically reduced the amount of stress I experience.

Also I don't want anyone misinterpreting what I am saying here, I am definitely still a novice. I did not f-close any of the girls, I was way too stressed out to really even think that far ahead.

The one I kept around is decent, I want to focus on her awhile to build my mid to final stages skills.

I'd just thought I'd let you guys know about that since you were such a help in my other posts. I am going to try to spend more time on the board contributing now that I'm not juggling so many girls.

Dude, don't ever cut off chicks because you like one of them more. If you 2nd date bomb the one you like and you've blown off the rest you're back to square one.

Also, I really find it hard to believe that you're socially normal enough to be able to pick up chicks, yet are having anxiety problems from trying to keep them straight. That doesn't make sense.

Hi SarginDood, welcome to the forums.

I've revised my system a bit over the last few weeks so that while there is one primary girl I am seeing, I will also allow myself to have one open spot for another girl. But three or more is just too many (at least for me).

As for you not believing my post, that is fine. It is not necessary for you to believe something in order for it to be true. However, let me try to explain it this way. When I was in college typically students took 3 classes per quarter, a few times however I crammed in one extra class for a total of 4 classes. Having that one extra class made things exponentially more difficult and stressful than if I would have taken each class individually. That's how I think about girls now, I would rather focus on having quality interactions with just 1 or 2 as opposed to spreading myself thin mentally with 3 or 4. Hopefully that helps you understand.

if you have life aside from girls, it is vvery difficult to have a lot of girls, or date a lot during a week. I work around 70hours a week, and i have to include things i do with my friends and stuff that i got to do at home and personal interests. So not much time, to find girls or date them. I can usually get around a max of 3 dates a week, maybe push it to 5 dates, if i do two date on each day of the weekend. any more and i am stressing too much.

The only time i get to find girls and get numbers is on the way to and from work, on the bus or tube, on the way to friends, or when am hanging out with friends (thats if am lucky to be standing near someone, as i wont bother finding a girl, as am out with friends).

If you at college, it is much easier, cause you got lots of time, but dont neglect your studies, because that can be seen as a passion and ambitious.

But if you are not in an exclusive relationship, i say, date as many girls as possible. Always keep in touch with girls, never lose contact. you dont want to be in a relationship and your get dump and no girls waiting.