MyPUAJourney Forum

So I have a dilemma, a crisis really, though you may all roll your eyes at that opening line.

I'm a University student, I've been aware of game for about a year and 2 months, and started practicing maybe a month and a half ago...whenever school resumed
I've seen lots of improvement, heck I'm probably the most popular guy on my campus, or pretty close to. If i meet a new girl i have soo much social proof i'll probably run into 5 girls in the duration of a 5 minute conversation who come over to hug me, and see whats up. on top of that, many of the guys at my school think I'm some sort of superman at my school. I'll take it.

But my problem is, that even with all of this social success I live 100 minutes from the school by commute
this is problematic because I can't pursue the girls I want without investing allot of energy, or time, or expense into the meeting
which appears to give way too much value to them. who travels 1.5 hours for some girl they just met right?
now i don't want any smart ass comments like you should move closer, because obviously if i could i would, but its not in the cards..
does anyone have any strategies to deal with this situation?

Has anyone got any anecdotes from themselves dealing with this situation??

I really need help, because I'm drowning in IOI's, and guys are calling me a celebrity and a player and I can't even make any progress with these girls because I can't overcome the distance obstacle

for any keyboard jockeys reading this, get out there and do it for yourself, there's nothing in the world like your typical natural telling u an rAFC that you're amazing with women trust me...

well, there have been topics about how to get the girls to bring you home to their place, maybe you could go for that, even at one night stands. what have worked for me (a few times), but is prolly AFC is to say that you have to leave because you live so far away, sometimes the girls will say that you can sleep on her couch (that usually means sex). other than that you can suggest for dates the days you are going to school anyways or some place inbetween where you and her live. I take it you don't have a car.

this is probably not the best of advice, but it is what comes to mind

i'm gonna go ahead and go the smart ass route by asking what the reasons for commuting. is it money related? because if it's money related, i can understand. if that is the problem, then i have no real solution at all that comes to mind. all college kids struggle with money, everyone wants a good roommate, and if you've got the reputation you speak of, then finding some roommates ought to be easy. that's the only way i see this working out.

Let me tell you a story, i dont normally post "field reports".

when i was lving in OZ, i lived like 1 hour and 20 minutes away from town (40 minute walk if no bus, and 40 minute train), even further if i went to the beach. I went out with this girl, this is before i knew anything about game. I met her sitting at bench having a smoke, i was also sitting on a bench opposite her, and then i noticed her. I guess i kinda blew the "3 second rule", as i went up to her after 5 minutes. Anyway, cant remember what i said to her, but i talked about shit, and got a free ciggerette off her, and had an instant date at the local starbucks. We were both travellers she was from germany, and we talked about that and just joked about. She looked a dead ringer for the singer "anatasia". She was hot.

Anyway, whenever we met up, i never made my living distance was a problem. I would tell her am in town on such a day, and i would be free, and we would meet up. I never took time out of my schedule to meet her. She was cool with it, and it didnt affect our situation.

If i were you i just play it like you normally do.

I got to ask for more info. What do you actually want? What are you actually stuck on? Is it isolating her to have sex?

I sort of know what you are going through, but I don't have any real answers to your problem. Me and my wing have experienced this issue, where we will get solid numbers from a college girl, but they virtually never have cars and then the transportation issue becomes a pain in the ass.

My wing actually pursued a relationship with a college girl like this (she had no car), he was always complaining because he was like her chauffeur . He had to drive 40 minutes to pick her up, drive her 40 minutes them back to his house, then drive her 40 minutes back to her house, then he had to drive 40 minutes back to his house. It was absolutely killer, and he was miserable.

I am not sure if it will help you but this is basically his outline (and of course this depends on how much comfort you've built with the girls etc)
1. He would do some day 2 activity close to the girl's house, like go to a park, see a movie etc.
2. He would do a day 3 close to his house, and sort of show her his place, maybe light kissing make out etc
3. day 4 he would bring her back to his place and say they were going to watch a movie,..... the movie was usually not watched.

If you are super good maybe you can skip the comfort. I think the key thing is just to give them a very good reason to drive all the way back to your place so they can explain it away to their chick friends the next day.