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Hey guys, I need some advice, how do I respond to this girl that completely flaked out on me 3 hours before we were suppose to meet to go to a fashion show?

I been setting this up for a couple of days now and going through the trouble of getting us on the VIP list for this major club in Chicago, but now she flakes. I hate girls!!!

Here is her exact text:

Fusion, please don't hate me but I think we won't go out anymore bc my friends that came to visit can only go out tomorrow and Im extremely tried after a very active week :S the night sounds amazing though so have fun and tell me if you go out tomorrow to maybe coincide k? Besos


How do you think I should respond to this? Thanks guys

ignore her bro, don't say a word, no texts no calls nothing. After a few days she'll contact you and thats when you tell her that she needs to make it up to you

agree with rogers. plus i would still go there, and have fun and brought a friend. Then when she contacts again, you can tell her what a great time you had.

I dont think it was too bad, she still made the effort to make it up and arrange another time to meet. make sure she arranges something, not movie or restaurant.

If she doesnt call back, forget her. Dont call her back to brag, or even tell her off. move on

you could have answered, with text, "well looks like you are going to have to make it up to me, better be something good, no movie or restaurnant, somehting fun and original." after she sent that text.

me generally, i just move on, she had her chance. Unless she calls.

Simple. Don't respond. I agree with the others. If she bailed, then it's on her to re-engage. You're far to busy to be bothered. I hope you went to the event anyway and either gamed there, or simple enjoyed the experience so that you'll be able to tell her what she missed out on, or to tell another woman some of the amazing things that you do with your time.

Ok, thanks, I didn't respond to her--i'll let her re-engage if she wants to.

But, yea, I still went with some other girls and enjoyed the experience.

Her loss.

Well done.

The whole point of not re engaging first, or pleading for her to coming, or thinking about it. is for your own benefit. To show that you actually value yourself more than anyone else, not in a narcissitic way, or too extreme. IT is self respect, and it makes you feel better.

If you want fusion, you can call her next week, and arrange a meet up. Maybe low key affair, to gauge her responsiveness.

one side note.

IF you are new to this game, and dont have many friends or contacts - either female or male, or prospects - defo female. I wouldnt do events like the example given by fusion.

Do something more low key, or something that you would do anyway regardless or you were doing something with friends and you invited her along.

reason: you would build it up, just by putting the extra effort in to organising the event. This can be a confidence drainer.

But as fusion had friends to go with or other prospects. It didnt matter if she turned up or not.

IF you are confident person, and you go to a concert/event and your date flakes, you can still go by yourself, cause you will not let it affect you cause you are always was going to have fun and be social, so nothing has changed. some people who are new to this, can let it effect them. Thus ruin their fun and sociallising.

Great Point Canibus. If getting flakes harms your self esteem, then he's absolutely right, putting a lot of effort into an event will make it sting all the more if a girl flakes on you.

That said, you should be planning events you'll do with or without her. If she decides not to come along, then great, you just won a night/day to sarge / meet new people.

Everything is an opportunity.

You went with other girls right, I'm sure that cushioned the blow.

Just out of interest, did the girl actually call you fusion? Like, do you all use PUA psuedonyms in the field? I rarely introduce meself as Shirley.